A Thought On Timing

     Hello readers!

   
     Today's post is about a question I found when I stumbled on a blog I am subscribed to (FreshModesty.BlogSpot.com).  While fishing through the comments, I stumbled on this one, which I will list momentarily.  Anyway, it struck me that this is such a common question people are asking themselves, and other people.  Although I do not believe in dating, but rather what is called by us 'betrothal,' (you can see the trailer to the documentary by clicking here), yet, even so, for someone who is neither familiar with such an option or open to one, this would be the answer I would give them.  I couldn't post the answer on the blog because in another section of her comment she asked that only ladies from the age range of 20-25 years answer...  It would be wrong to disrespect that. Please tell me your thoughts!  Blessings!

Hi everyone! I have tried to find a group of Christian homeschooled girls to pop a question to. I couldn't find one. Then I thought . . . what about Fresh Modesty? Hopefully you won’t think this is weird and random. I just wanted to ask a question to see what is the average answer a Christian home schooled girl would give. Here’s the question:
Okay, so there’s this guy. He goes to your church, is a strong Christian, you have known him for 2-4 years, and you’re good friends with his family and have talked to him before. He comes up to you and casually asks you out on a date. The date is very casual, a little activity like bowling or mini golf. What do you say?

 Hi there!  To start, I will humbly say that being 14 years of age, I still have a lot to learn, but this is a topic that I'm passionate about, especially since I'm just starting the process of turning into a young lady.  :)

I think that the fact that he's a strong Christian is AWESOME!  I admire any man who has a heart to serve our Heavenly Father :).  But, even when a man is a strong Christian, that doesn't mean he's YOUR 'strong Christian', if you catch my meaning.  God has made each and every one of us a specific person who is to be our spouse some day, and He will bring Him to us in the right timing.  The big question is, how do we know when He's telling us that "It's time?" 

First thing: Prayer.  Bring it to your parents.  Ask them to pray about it sincerely and you do the same.  I've heard from so many friends that tell me that when the time came, God gave them such an indescribable peace.  Listen for it. 

Second thing:  Take heed to your parent's words.  If they say "yes, we think this is great," HURRAH!  Have fun bowling :).  But if they tell you they don't think it's a good plan, please, listen.  I get it.  It's hard.  I know I'm just entering into that phase and you're probably thinking:  "She couldn't possibly understand."  You know what, you're probably right.  But I am acquainted with so many that DO.  From what they tell me (and by "they" I mean A LOT of people) it's so worth it.  Your parent's are the people designated BY GOD to tell you 'yes' or 'no.'  We have the freewill to decide whether to take heed of it or not, but nevertheless, we should.  "Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you."  Exodus 20:12 

Third thing: God knows what He's doing.  If he could create everything over and under the sun, if He could part seas and turn water to wine, He can bring your man along.  When He tells you "yes," I cannot imagine the joy any girl would feel.  But, if God says no, know it's for the best.  I know a woman who's in her early thirties, is still single, and has never had a relationship as such because she desires to remain pure for that one man that God brings along.  (Anyway, that's an entirely different topic.  I won't get into that :).)  This is not a demeaning thing.  If anything, it should be admired, because she has trusted God with her love-life, and even though He hasn't brought 'the one' yet, she's living contentedly and God's doing SO MUCH with her life.  It's incredible to watch her do what she does.  She's a missionary in Israel, an author, and a more than amazing friend.  

This is what the Father has revealed to me over the years, and I hope that it's been at the very least interesting to you.  Blessings!

S.

     As said above, I hope this has been a blessing!  Please tell me your thoughts on the matter! Shalom (peace) to you all!

     Sophia & Hannah